Happy Fathers Day to my father, the man who made me who I am today. It’s because of him that I never had a father growing up and we all know how being fatherless effects children and the adults they become. I don’t believe people ever heal from that painful void 100%, but it’s not what happens to us that makes us who we are, it’s what we do with it. I made sure my children had a daddy who was always there for them and still is as adults. So just what makes a good father? Here’s a link to show what does, https://www.wikihow.com/Be-a-Good-Father and the most important thing to a child is your presence. Being there for them, that’s all they really need and want from their dad!
My father failed miserably at that very important task. He failed not just me but 8 other kids besides me. He had 2 separate families, one on the West Coast and one on the East Coast. He was quite the ladies man I guess some would say, but he was a lousy father and a very selfish man who I suppose had his own demons from his own past that he never really resolved. He didn’t grow from his wounds like I did, and although I’m certainly not the perfect parent, I am a warrior and my own hero for becoming who I am today despite the odds of growing up a fatherless child. Especially when the father figure in the house who replaced dad is a perverted psychopath. The statistics https://thefatherlessgeneration.wordpress.com/statistics/ are scary for people like myself. Yes, I am a hero.
There's a hero
If you look inside your heart
You don't have to be afraid
Of what you are
There's an answer
If you reach into your soul
And the sorrow that you know
Will melt away
And then a hero comes along
With the strength to carry on
And you cast your fears aside
And you know you can survive
So when you feel like hope is gone
Look inside you and be strong
And you'll finally see the truth
That a hero lies in you
It's a long road
When you face the world alone
No one reaches out a hand
For you to hold
You can find love
If you search within yourself
And the emptiness you felt
Will disappear
And then a hero comes along
With the strength to carry on
And you cast your fears aside
And you know you can survive
So when you feel like hope is gone
Look inside you and be strong
And you'll finally see the truth
That a hero lies in you
Lord knows
Dreams are hard to follow
But don't let anyone
Tear them away
Hold on
There will be tomorrow
In time
You'll find the way
And then a hero comes along
With the strength to carry on
And you cast your fears aside
And you know you can survive
So when you feel like hope is gone
Look inside you and be strong
And you'll finally see the truth
That a hero lies in you
That a hero lies in you
That a hero lies in you
~Mariah Carey Hero Lyrics
