MALIGNANT NARCISSISM
In an abusive family, the "troublemaker" is never the one who actually causes the problem. The "troublemaker" is the one who sees it, protests it, or exposes it.
Abusers control, manipulate & make you feel like you are the one with the problem. Stand up, speak out & take back your life. You are not to blame.
Abusive people have unwritten rules. One big unwritten rule is the rule of silence. I know this silence well; it was a big part of my life for a very long time. The victim knows the rules of silence & generally complies with those rules for fear of more abuse, or embarrassment by the abuser, which is also abuse. The silencing plan includes spinning the truth to the point of making it seem like everything is the victim's fault. This fear keeps the victim quiet. It's highly effective.
SOS speak out SURVIVORS. We are sending out an SOS. We have something we need to confess. We have been beaten & battered, broken & shattered. We have been demeaned & demoralized & it's time society realized it is time to make a stand, make a demand for change. No women, child or human being should have to tolerate any form of abuse & yet, they keep letting our offenders loose. Speak out & spread the word. Our voices need to be heard. Speak out SURVIVORS & let your story be told.
Ever known a narcissist? They will verbally & emotionally abuse you, using put downs, criticisms & insults. Then when you stand up for yourself, they come unglued & say you are the toxic one.
Anyone who allows evil to exist & remains SILENT is a part of it.
Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one's definition of your life; but define yourself.
The scapegoat represents both the evidence of the truth that could shatter the narcissist mother's pretend world & the blame for the trail of destruction the narcissistic personality disorder mother leaves behind. Make no mistake about it, a true narcissistic parent who is high enough on the narcissism spectrum will choose to destroy all evidence of the truth, rather than be exposed or held accountable.
Your story is the key that can unlock someone else's prison. Share your story!
Even if you find your voice, sometimes it does not matter anymore, when you speak to someone who is deaf by choice.
The longer SURVIVORS spend with no contact, the more everything makes sense.