THE HIGH PROTEIN $$$ HEAVY LIFTING FAD

 I keep getting told from the “menopause community” and health gurus that yoga and hiking and plant based food will cause my 53-year-old post menopausal muscles to shrivel and bones to shatter unless I take HRT, eat animals, and lift heavyweights at the gym. Well… I just laugh. 

Obviously, it doesn’t take money, meat, and memberships to stay fit and healthy as we age. 

ALCOHOL IS NOT A ONE PERSON SPORT

Recovering alcoholics like to say "just because I can't handle my booze, doesnt mean those who can shouldn't be free to imbibe and enjoy themselves.' Well, if drinking was the type of drug that only affected the user I would agree wholeheartedly. But, as we all know, it doesn't work that way. You dont have to be a drunk driving wife beating maniac to negatively affect those around you while intoxicated. Social drinkers become lazy parents, neglecting simple tasks of caring for their children when they have to nurse a hangover the entire next day. They make for louzy partners, co-workers, friends, and bosses. Alcohol affects the brain and every other organ to react in very negative ways as it tries to detox the body from the poison. Not all alcoholics kill people driving drunk or beat their kids. So what!! not all psychopaths are serial killers but they’re still dangerous people to be avoided.

To say live and let live, everyone has the right to have fun without interference, I agree. That's why I rail against drinkers because THEY prevent people from having fun by having to deal with their obnoxious intoxication and detoxification. If you must intoxicate yourself in order to be around people and have fun, then do it in the safety of your own home, away from children and animals and the internet. That way you only endanger yourself allowing everyone else to have fun and enjoy themselves, without having to deal with your charades. It's not fun being around loud, repetitive drinkers and people who can handle life without dumbing and numbing themselves down shouldn't have to accept and tolerate such madness. 

“NO body has a body that is meant to handle alcohol.” And that is 100% true. Alcohol is a drug, an intoxicant, and no human body is designed to tolerate it with ease. Just because we as a society have come to believe that tying one on or relaxing with a glass of wine or drinking to such excess that we puke is normal doesn’t mean that it’s what we are supposed to do or designed to do. Doctors smoked in the 1950s and suggested it to patients, even appeared in cigarette ads endorsing their favorite brand. Just because they did that doesn’t mean they were right. It just means that we accepted it as being right. It just means we didn’t question.” Holly Whitaker 

 

https://luke173ministries.org/# 

This website was a lifesaver for me over a decade ago when I cut all contact with my abusive mother and stepfather. Although, I’m no longer a Christian, I still agree with the entire concept of this woman’s wisdom logic and instruction regarding adult child abuse by narcissistic family members. Her book dispels the notion that Christians are demanded by God to forgive all, using biblical scripture. I hope it will help guide many others towards the knowledge, therefore the courage, to finally be free. Without guilt or shame. After all, it’s commanded by Jesus Christ Himself, to shun evildoers unless they repent and change their evil ways. Even family members. 

“Dear Sister,

 

Have you been abused by a birth-parent, sibling, or other relative, and has this abuse continued into your adulthood? Have you been controlled, manipulated, criticized, insulted, humiliated, betrayed, or abandoned by someone you loved? Have you been called names, screamed at, shouted at, or ordered around? Do you have a relative who intrudes and pries into your life and tells you what to do? Do you have a one-way relationship, with you doing all of the giving and none of the receiving? Are unreasonable demands or expectations placed upon you? Does your birth-family expect unquestioned obedience, even though you are now an adult? Have you been threatened with being disowned, cut out of the family or out of the will? Have you been lied to, lied about, gossiped about, cheated, or even stolen from by a family member? Have you been sabotaged, undermined, disrespected, demeaned, degraded, or the target of jealousy or envy from a parent or sibling? Have you been asked or pressured to lie, cover up, keep family secrets or do anything else you are uncomfortable with? Are you always taking care of others at your expense, while your needs are constantly ignored? Have your husband or children been hurt by or witnessed abuse from your relatives?

 

Have you tried to set boundaries with your relative, only to have him refuse to accept responsibility, deny, blame you, or escalate his abuse? Have you felt it necessary to limit or avoid contact with this person in order to protect yourself, your husband, or your children? Were you put in the difficult position of having to confront a sick or elderly relative? When you began standing up for yourself, did your family member stop speaking to you rather than stop abusing you?

 

Have you been criticized, judged, betrayed, or abandoned by other family members for finally standing up for yourself? Do other relatives justify, rationalize, or even defend the abuser’s behavior? Did these same people tolerate and accept the abuser’s behavior, standing by silently while you were victimized, possibly for many years, and now the only disapproval they have ever voiced is aimed at you, for trying to protect yourself?

 

Sister, for those of us who have been raised in this kind of family, surrounded by abusive relatives and their enablers our whole lives, this combination circus / horror show atmosphere can seem almost normal. Yet when we read these words in black and white, we are shocked by how bad it actually sounds. Those who have normal, loving families find it difficult to understand the distress, anxiety, and heartache we have lived with.

When people show you who they are, believe them”….Maya Angelou

An abusive birth-relative is most often a parent, but can also be a sibling, grandparent, cousin, aunt or uncle. When we refer to abusive, controlling, or abandoning “birth-families”, we mean the family who raised you, and who was supposed to love, protect, and cherish you. This includes adoptive, step-, and foster families.

There are a number of behaviors that can be considered abusive, but we often don’t think of them in that way simply because we have been raised experiencing these behaviors from a relative that we have known all of our lives, and we think of his behavior as normal, because it is all we have ever known from him.

Because we love this person, we tend to overlook his behavior. We have also been trained since childhood to ignore or make excuses for the abuse by other relatives who are in denial or who protect the abuser (see The Silent Partner). A family member’s bad childhood, background, war experiences, alcoholism, personality disorders, psychological problems, etc., may help us to understand him, but should never be used as an excuse to justify his mistreatment or abuse of others. Whether he chooses to get help for his issues or not, he does not have the right to inflict them on anyone else.

We sometimes don’t understand that we are really being abused until we compare our family relationships with someone else whose family does not behave in an abusive or controlling manner.

Any behavior which attempts to control you is abuse, simply because adults do not control other adults. When any given behavior causes you stress on a regular basis or begins to undermine your self-esteem, it has crossed the line into abuse.

Here are some examples of abusive behavior. Please e-mail us any others you can think of so we can add them to our list.

Criticism Manipulation Humiliation Betrayal Insults

Undermining self-confidence Guilt-Trips Name-calling

Disrespecting Intruding Unreasonable expectations

Treating you like a child Telling you what to do Unloving

Demeaning Not respecting your privacy Lying Stealing

Judgmentalism Raising voice at you Trying to bribe you

Threatening Disowning Making demands Sabotage

Expecting ‘obedience’ from you even though you are now an adult

Pressuring Snide comments Abandoning Giving orders

Inappropriate anger Frequent rudeness

Expecting you to take care of them or solve their problems

Expecting you to sacrifice for them while ignoring your needs (one-way relationship)

Instigating trouble between family members Selfishness

Prying Pressuring you to lie, cover up, or keep family secrets

Picking fights Screaming Belittling Sarcasm Using you

Complaining about you to others Denial Taking advantage

Whining or using tears to get own way The Silent Treatment

Making scenes in public or in front of your children

Pressuring you to take sides with them against other relatives

Blaming you for whatever they’re unhappy about

Blaming you or others for whatever they do wrong

Insensitivity Inconsideration Hurtfullness Uncaring

Minimizing your feelings Nastiness Belligerence Cruelty

Making you doubt your perceptions Pouting Gossiping

Negative remarks about your weight, appearance, etc.

Transferring their abuse to your spouse when you get married, rejecting your spouse

Competing with your spouse

Trying to make an ally of your spouse, smothering your spouse with love to make you look crazy and turn him against you later on!

For more examples of abusive behavior, check out these lists:

bullyeq- Strange Psycho Behaviour

bullyeq- Abuse You May Not Realise

For more on birth-family abuse of adult daughters, please see the Sections on Happier Holidays, The Abuser’s Reaction to Rebuke, The Silent Partner, Why They Abuse, Abandon or Betray You, The Effects of Abuse, A Little About Us, Repenting & Apologies, Reprobates & Cutting Ties, Adult Child Abuse-The Only Abuse Still Accepted, Claiming the Victory, and Setting & Enforcing Limits & Boundaries, as well as the books reviewed in Reading Spotlight (especially Toxic Parents and Children of the Self-Absorbed )

Leonard- “You can catch more flies with honey than vinegar.”

Sheldon- “You can catch even MORE flies with manure. What’s your point?”

……from The Big Bang Theory

 

I wonder where folks get the idea that Christians have to be meek and mild, silently enduring mistreatment, tolerating anything anybody else does, and timidly standing by while abusers trample all over them and other innocent victims. Since when is it a sin to speak out against evil? This is what our abusers want us to believe, and they just love throwing it back in our faces anytime we protest their behavior. They provoke us to anger, they cause untold pain and suffering, and then when we finally speak up, they smugly inform us that we’re not acting like “good Christians”. This is hogwash. Abusers would just love for us to back off and be quiet while they do anything they want and get away with murder.

Adult Child Abuse-The Only Abuse Still Accepted

Adult Child Abuse

 

THE ONLY FORM OF ABUSE STILL….

 

…TOLERATED BY SOCIETY

 

…ACCEPTED BY SOCIETY

 

…CONDONED BY SOCIETY

 

THE ONLY FORM OF ABUSE IN WHICH THE VICTIM IS….

…OPENLY DISCOURAGED FROM STANDING UP FOR HERSELF, TALKING ABOUT IT, OR REVEALING THE ABUSE TO OTHERS

 

…EXPECTED TO CONTINUE SUFFERING INDEFINITELY

 

…CRITICIZED FOR TRYING TO PROTECT HERSELF

 

…JUDGED FOR ESCAPING FROM HER ABUSER

 

THE ONLY FORM OF ABUSE IN WHICH IT IS CONSIDERED OKAY FOR A COMPETENT ADULT TO….

 

…BE CONTROLLED BY SOMEONE ELSE

 

…HAVE NO INDEPENDENCE OR RIGHT TO RUN HER OWN LIFE OR MAKE HER OWN DECISIONS

 

…BE HELD HOSTAGE TO THE WHIMS OR DESIRES OF ANOTHER

…HAVE NO FREEDOM OF CHOICE

 

CHILD ABUSE THAT DID NOT END WHEN ADULTHOOD BEGAN. THE CONTINUING VICTIMIZATION OF GROWN CHILDREN BY THEIR ABUSIVE OR CONTROLLING PARENTS, SIBLINGS, OR FAMILY MEMBERS .

 

SILENCE CONDONES ABUSE! THE TRUTH SHALL SET YOU FREE !”

THE ENEMY FROM WITHIN

 

Why are people surprised how close the polls are between Harris and Trump, as if it's shocking that half the American people want to vote in a malignant narcissist convict as their leader? Well, I'm not at all surprised. Why? Because, when you look at some of the things the American people stand for, voting for a convicted Malignant Narcissist makes perfect sense. 

The worst being forced sexual mutilation of our men at birth while calling it "healthcare" You can't get more shocking than that, yet the majority of American's truly believe the male sexual anatomy is so prone to disease and ridicule, that surgical intervention is necessary. Other developed countries look at us with horror for this barbaric medical practice, because scientifically and morally it's unnecessary and torturous with crippling consequences for both men AND their partners, which affects society as a whole. Research "Imprinting at Birth" and it may explain why our young men are shooting up schools. You don't think cutting off the most pleasurable half of a man's penis has consequences? Think again. 

The majority of Americans also vehemently defend the relentless, century long, slaughter of women and children in other countries such as Palestine. All while using their Bibles to justify it, in the name of the most peaceful prophet they call Jesus. Well, Jesus was born in Palestine and the Palestinians revere Jesus and his mother Mary. I wonder what Jesus would do if he really did return as they keep praying for, to these so-called Christians who worship a false god while practicing idolatry on a nauseating scale? I would love to witness that. Jesus always shocked his phony followers with rebuke while embracing their enemies. Read your bibles America!

The majority of the American people shamelessly invest in factory farming by eating animals who are born into this world who's sole purpose is to suffer a miserable life, then be tortured to death. These Americans laugh at, mock, and ridicule plant eaters who refuse to partake in this corrupt "food" industry. Then they deny all evidence presented to them in defence of their food addiction. Vile. 

The majority of the American people throw their own children in "daycare" institutions in order to afford all the unnecessary luxuries to keep up with the Joneses. Things and conveniences have replaced compassion, sacrifice, and love. Because they also throw their aging parents into institutions, without a thought as to the corrupt care they receive until death. 

The majority of the American people think Americans are the greatest people on earth dispite all of this. But other cultures/countries don't sexually mutilate their men at birth. They don't rely on restaurants and fast food to feed their families, causing the need for factory farming.  They raise their own children instead of farming them out for strangers to raise. And they care for and revere their elders, because self sacrifice and family is everything, not luxuries, self gratification and convenience. 

So no, I'm not shocked at all that Trump, a ruthless convicted pervert, has almost half the country behind him. In fact, America deserves him. The rest of the world is laughing at us because of him. And shaking their heads at the horrific way we live and treat our loved ones. We are the laughing stock of the world! And Trump is a reflection of that.

FALSE ADVERTISING

Alcohol is by far the most dangerous and destructive drug on the planet. Why? Because it's glorified and heavily marketed as something we need in order to have fun, be sexy, tough, popular, cool, and respectable. But the fact is, that it offers none of those things, quite the opposite. People who drink are fearful. They fear being in social circumstances unless they are under the influence. They fear they can't have fun, have sex, socialize, relax, sleep, live. But ingesting alcohol is like pouring gasoline on anxiety. It destroys quality sleep. It doesn't make you good in bed, it makes you sloppy, lazy and incompetent. The alcohol industry deceives us about what we look like when we consume their product. Are they ashamed of how their own customers behave and look when intoxicated on their product? It doesn't make you sexy, it makes you ugly and act like an idiot. It doesn't make you more fun, it makes you obnoxious, loud, blubbery, gluttonous, unfaithful, deceitful, argumentative and aggressive. But they won't put those truth bomb ads on TV commercials. Why not? 

I think the alcohol industry needs to stop deceptively lying about the effects of their product and stop the mantra to “drink responsibly” because there's nothing responsible about drinking poison that turns people into a dangerously irresponsible embarrassment. They need to stop slapping the label "adult beverage" on it when it's consumed by immature fearful cop outs who can't handle life without numbing and dumbing themselves down. What's adult about that? 

Drinkers/druggies love to tell me to mind my own business, live and let live, and even to start drinking again so I’ll "chill out". Typical addict mentality. I will never stop exposing alcohol for the world's most destructive and deadly drug that it is, especially while it’s being so grossly false advertised. You see, that's what drugs do to people. It makes them too selfish to see the harm they bring to everyone around them. It's not just about THEM and THEIR drinking problem. If it was, I wouldn’t give a damn. 

There has been a huge shift in the way people view alcohol. The tides are turning and soon everyone will agree there is nothing good about booze.  Anyone who tries to defend it or minimize it, will be seen as someone defending heroin. A fool. An addict. A mentally ill person who needs help. Because that's the truth. That's who they are. Tough love does not work on the mentally ill and addiction is a mental illness that drinking/drugging causes. Alcohol literally changes the brain causing brain damage. Sadly, until drinkers get the help they need, they can't see how sick they are and will continue wreaking havoc on humanity, and all that is good.