Monday, April 8, 2019

45 BENEFITS OF SOBER LIVING



Benefits from being free from alcohol. I'm sure everyone's journey and addiction story is different but this is mine.
  1. Peace of mind
  2. No more hangovers
  3. No more guilt, shame, and regret
  4. Better mother and wife
  5. Sleep better
  6. Wake up refreshed and energized
  7. Eat whatever I want without weight gain
  8. No more puffy face and bloated belly
  9. Decrease in wrinkles and broken blood vessels around nose
  10. No more tired dull and baggy eyes
  11. Look and feel younger
  12. No more high cholesterol
  13. No more family drama and heated arguments
  14. Freedom from abusive toxic people
  15. No more rage and roller coaster mood swings
  16. No more forgetting what happened the night before when I go out
  17. No more fake conversations
  18. More time in the day
  19. No longer have to plan my days around my addiction
  20. Sunrises are amazing!
  21. More energy and spunk
  22. More genuine towards others and myself
  23. Learning who the real me is
  24. No longer a helpless slave 
  25. Having self confidence, self respect, and self love
  26. No more self hate but pride in myself
  27. No more lies or excuses for my bad behavior
  28. Real courage not obnoxious liquid “courage”
  29. No more waking up at 3 a.m. over thinking and fretting
  30. Decrease in anxiety and depression..big time
  31. No more all day carb cravings, binge eating, laxatives and vomiting
  32. No more room spinning
  33. No more fighting to control or limit my drug use
  34. More money!
  35. Started writing a blog
  36. My dreams came true!
  37. Look to self for happiness instead of others 
  38. Embrace my weirdness and uniqueness 
  39. No longer afraid to feel and deal with my feelings and emotions
  40. Perfect work attendance!
  41. Less colds, illnesses and injuries
  42. Less headaches..almost non existent  
  43. No more Advil abuse for headaches
  44. No more sloppy fake sex
  45. No more jonesing for my fix!

Wednesday, April 3, 2019

MY MOTHER WALKED AWAY FROM ME



I used to think it was I who walked away from my mother and siblings but it’s the other way around. My mother and siblings walked away from me when I asked them for mutual respect. I asked my mother to keep her narcissistic pedophile husband away from my children and she couldn’t do that, so she made the choice to walk away.  I asked her to either leave her serial adulterer husband or stop bringing me into it, and she couldn't do that so she walked away. My siblings took sides and so they walked away. I never really looked at it that way until I read something from another daughter who’s mother walked away from her when she asked for mutual respect.  I’m sure she still thinks it was I who chose to walk away and split the family apart, but now I know it was them because of their decision to live a lie that I no longer could. Every word rings true.

Monday, April 1, 2019

SOBER IS SEXY!


Sober is sexy. Believe me this - drinking is not sexy. Drinking slowly deadens your ability to control your muscles and ,causes weight gain and water retention, wrinkles, broken capillaries and redness, lowers your inhibitions so you act outside of how you normally would were you in full control, and lowers your self-confidence. 

Waking up feeling like crap, with a sandpaper throat, bloated, with a hankering for a cheeseburger, not remembering parts of your night, or worse, remembering regrettable things you did, and an entire day stretching before you…yuck. Alcohol makes you ugly. 
2 out of 3 adults in the US drink alcohol. You're choosing to not consume something that everyone else is a slave to on some level. You're stronger than 67% of the US adult population. Anyone that tells you different is someone who has their own complicated relationship with what addiction is. 

Drinking perpetually keeps us from understanding Who. We. Are. It is culprit in developing a false sense of self and a divide between who we really are, and the person we think we have to be. Until we remove alcohol from our lives, we never get to experience the true capacity and depth of self. Removing alcohol allowed me to finally get to the bottom of who I was, and finally give her the fighting chance she deserved. We are all gems, all of us with gifts, all of us perfect little stories to unfold. Removing alcohol allows our real journey to finally begin.


ME 7 years sober...Not bad for a 48 yr old mother of 3! 

Health gurus are shunning gluten, dairy, meat, tap water, pesticides, antibiotics, sugar, aluminum, fluoride and conventional medicine....

And then there is booze, and it's booze, and don't fuck with our booze. Our wine and our cocktails are where our madness for wellness ends - so much so that we have begun incorporating it into our wellness - just google "Wine Yoga" and see for yourself.

Alcohol is a neurotoxin, a drug. And consuming it undermines your attempts at health and beauty in countless ways. Some of these things are apparent - how does your breath smell on a hungover Saturday morning, how do your rings fit after a night out, how red is your face the next day or the night of, how bad are those circles? Other effects are sneaky, revealing themselves only over time: Beer gut, rosacea, sallow skin, facial bloat.

Alcohol causes inflammation (which leads to myriad other health issues), dehydrates, disrupts our blood sugar balance (which makes us mood swing, binge eat, get the shakes, disrupts sleep), gunks up our liver (which means our body can't detox and also means we have trouble losing weight - toxins live in fat cells), interferes with the metabolism of nutrients (absorption), replaces healthy calories (malnutrition), changes our pH balance (causing body odor), leads to loss of sleep (which leads to a host of other things that make us look like shit), disrupts the endocrine/glandular system (as in, adrenals/energy, sex hormones/periods/sex drive, sleep cycle), accelerates the aging process, worsens skin issues (like acne), causes bloating, brittles hair, causes memory loss, shrinks gray matter, induces or worsens depressive states, causes broken capillaries/rosacea, leads to other unhealthy and/or risky behavior (like poor food choices, unprotected sex, smoking), is directly linked to certain cancers (like breast cancer). There's also that whole other part about how it addicts us, kills 1 in 10 of us, robs us of years off our lives, our dignity, our freedom, our loved ones and on and on. But it’s glorification and the abuse continues. ðŸ¤®https://www.hipsobriety.com/…/yes-alcohol-is-making-you-loo…