It’s always bewildering when drinkers congratulate me on my sobriety, saying how proud they are of me. Meanwhile, they themselves can't live without booze. It's actually really annoying. It's like a crack addict congratulating someone who no longer uses crack. As if there's nothing wrong with using crack, but something wrong with those who can't “control” their crack. See how twisted it sounds? You don't need to be an alcoholic to have a drinking problem. Meaning, you don't need to drink every single day to be addicted to alcohol. Most social drinkers are addicted to alcohol and wreak havoc on the lives of many. It's finally been proven, there are zero benefits to drinking. It's also been labled the most dangerous drug of all drugs when you take into account the ripple effect. Drunk driving fatalities, domestic violence, sexual assault, child abuse, etc. It's no surprise to me since I've used most every drug out there, and have been around all types of drug users to see the effects each one brings.
I have only met 2 people in my life who can stop at one drink. The majority can't. Those who say they don't have a drinking problem, I say try going 3 months without a drink, or better yet, stop after one drink and see how it goes. Most drinkers can't imagine it, let alone do it. Drinkers who congratulate those of us who no longer drink, believe they are “special” because they can "handle their alcohol", but upon observation they obviously can not. Anyone who can't have fun or get through life unless they use alcohol are drug addicts. And the mere thought of others who are able to function and enjoy life without alcohol, makes drinkers defensive. So they pat us on the back and try convincing us that they can take it or leave it. Sure they can..these addicts need to feel superior and in control, through denial, in order to protect their fragile egos. Addiction kills pride, and people with injured pride try building themselves up through denial and silly lies. Sadly, they also like to deny the chaos and misery they bring into the lives of everyone around them. Drug addicts are extremely selfish untrustworthy toxic people.
But shouldn't I show more compassion to addicts, since I was once one myself? No, I don't need to show compassion for drug addicts living in denial because they are dangerous selfish deceitful liars who bring great harm and destruction to the lives of many. I do, however, have compassion for addicts who admit they have an unhealthy relationship with alcohol and are making efforts to get sober, and better their lives. These are courageous people of integrity worthy of much respect and admiration. Drug addicts are not the victims, they are the perpetrators. Until they admit the harm they cause with a desire to change. The true victims are their loved ones and all who come in contact with the addict. These victims suffer greatly because the addict has no intent on changing or stopping, and NO amount of compassion will make them change.
If your argument is, “hate the sin not the sinner”, “blame the drug not the druggie”, I agree. Which is why it’s insulting and pathetic to hear drinkers congratulate me for no longer drinking. Because they are insinuating that I am the problem, not the drug. Because I can't “handle” the drug, I am somehow diseased, weak and out of control. This helps affirm their fantasy that they are superior over people who gave up the drink. It’s an irrational and pompous attitude and causes many to feel shame about giving up alcohol for fear of looking like a diseased out of control alcoholic. “Alcohol is the only drug on earth you have to justify NOT taking” Annie Grace
Alcohol is a highly addictive drug, (like most drugs) not to mention a class 1 carcinogen. No one is above it.
The thing with alcohol addiction is you can look perfectly healthy and together on the outside, while your insides are slowly being poisoned to death. Our bodies can take a lot of abuse but with age everything catches up. It begins to show in our hair and skin, puffy tired eyes, bloated belly, digestive issues, not to mention the roller coaster moods, failed relationships, and complete lack of self-respect, self-worth, and integrity. Addiction is a very slow process. It gets you hooked and then lies to you that you're fine, you can quit whenever you want, you're successful and healthy and have a great life. Until you aren't and you don't. So next time you see someone proudly announce their freedom from alcohol make sure you aren't an addict yourself before you congratulate them. You have no right to voice your opinions while you live in denial and deceit about your own alcohol problem. You have no business telling them how proud you are of them, when you don’t see alcohol for the poison and destroyer of all good things, that it is. You are the one who has a problem, not them, because you’re the one who must use the drug to cope with life. Unless of course you intend to join the growing number of people who are realizing life without drugs is much more fulfilling and fun. Then you should tell them what an inspiration they are to make you rethink your own relationship with alcohol and your desire to stop poisoning your mind, body and lives of those around you.